
Multiples Scheduled Chat
Welcome to the Multiples Chat web page. There is a private folder in the forums for Multiples Chat, but in order to have access, you have to attend the chat first. So this page is to list the guidelines, etc. for Multiples Chat. Of course, these are in addition to the usual room guidelines. (Thank you Spikey for allowing me to use some of your guidelines!)
Guidelines
- Multiples Chat is for adults in a Multiple (DID) system. Teens and middles are welcome, but I ask that littles in the system attend Littles Chat on Wednesday evenings, as Multiples chat is very often about difficult subjects.
- No spoilers are required (except for the “f word”) in the chat or the chat’s folder but you may use them yourself if you wish.
- Please use self-care at all times. This can include grounding techniques, walking away from the computer and leaving the room.
- If something another member is talking about is triggering or upsetting to you, it is YOUR responsibility to leave the room. Please do not make it the other person's responsibility. Again, remember self-care.
- If someone leaves the room for self-care, remember it is that person's responsibility. Everyone has a responsibility to keep themselves safe, and it is not anyone's fault or responsibility if someone leaves.
- Be respectful to others.
- During Multiples Chat, quite often someone else from a system may enter. If you have your own name and are comfortable doing so, I ask that you exit and re-enter with your name. If someone is not comfortable identifying themselves by name, I ask that we all be respectful of that as well.
- During chat, please refrain from p2p's unless there is a serious issue to be addressed, and then please p2p the moderator, and not the other members.
- Please be patient with the moderator and with each other. : )
- The moderator may p2p without asking if it is needed to avoid disturbing the room. Please be aware if I do p2p reminding you of a guideline it is nothing personal, I just want the chat to be as comfortable as it can be for everyone.
- If there are admins present who are not in blue in the member list (ie. not wearing their hat) please respect that and realize that they are survivors too on their own healing journeys.
Extra guidelines for “closed” chats (where people take turns):
- When you have finished your turn please say "done".
- If you do not wish to have a turn, please say either "pass" or "come back to me".
- Do not interrupt the person who is talking.
- If someone enters the room once chat has begun, please save your welcomes and hugs for when the person who is talking is done as this can be very disrupting (I will say hi and explain it is someone’s turn).
- If you are late, you can say hi when you enter and a very short message but please be respectful to the person who is talking.
- If you need to be right back (brb) during chat, please do not interrupt, but instead change your status (the green sign post button)
- If you need to leave for whatever reason you may p2p me with a quick message if you would like, but it is not necessary. Again, remember self care.
Thanks for being here, and for attending our chats. I think we all have much to share and learn with and from each other.
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